Everyday Again

Everyday I see you
My heart beats
My knees weaken
I fall in love once again.

Everyday I see you
Butterflies fly,
Every time I see you smile
I fall in love all over again.

Everyday I see you
Same man
I fall
Over and over again.

A few more tips on relationships

Here's a few more to add from my previous post. These are just my opinion. hahahaha They may work for you or not. Whatever floats your boat. :)

Have a life of your own.

A lot of people commit the mistake of shutting people out of their lives upon getting in a relationship. They make their partner the center of their universe to the point that they sometimes become too dependent on them. What happens then if you end up loosing the person? You loose your world as well and become paralyzed.

Do your own thing. Have your own circle of friends, make plans on your own, have separate goals for your selves and be independent. Continue to live your life the way you wan it to. It is ok to make plans, goals and to build dreams with your partner. Just make sure that you also have your own so that in the event that you’d have to go separate ways, you’d still have a path to follow even if it means you’d have to reach the destination alone. You never know… someone might come along and join your journey on your way to your destination. ;)

Give without asking anything in return.

“Give and take” is one of the most popular sayings we grew up hearing. In relationships, we usually expect the other individual to give back in return whatever it is that we gave them. But we do not live in a perfect world. People may sometimes ignore the good things that we do for them. Sometimes, love if not reciprocated, is not even appreciated.

When giving, may it be an object, time or emotion, do not expect anything in return. As long as you gave it whole heartedly and with pure, honest and genuine intentions, then that is enough. Here are some quotes that you might want to ponder on, “It is better to give than receive.” and “It is better to have loved and not be loved back than to have not loved at all.”

“Don’t expect. Just hope for the best.”

Feeling Joe D' Mango (part 1)

It’s been four years since my last relationship. Some people say that it was too long of a time to be single. For me though, it was just right. I was able to enjoy being alone. I got to do things that I wanted without having to think of someone (except for my parents of course haha).I was able to meet new people and with this comes being blessed with new real friends. Over the past years, I got to know myself more. I was never in a hurry to be in a relationship with someone. My officemate, Chesa, always tells me that I’ve kissed so many frogs and that she wishes that the next one will finally turn into a prince. Seems like cupid took pity on me and finally gave me a prince. I just hope that he doesn’t turn into a frog. Hahahaha

Anyway, I just want to share some thoughts on what we should consider before entering a relationship and once in a relationship.

He or She should not complete you.

Jerry Maguire made the line “You complete me.” popular. In my opinion though, one should be complete and sure of his or her self before getting into a relationship. You should know yourself first before knowing somebody else. Your partner should not complete you; rather he or she should complement you. Be with someone who will make you better.

“Don’t go with the better guy; go with the guy that makes you better.” – This Means War


Make sure that you’re hang-up free from your previous relationship.

Just to be fair to the person you are dating or will be dating, make sure that you have no more issues from your past. You’ll just end up comparing the two. You also wouldn’t want to use someone just to get over someone. It just won’t work.

Accept the person for who he/she was, is and will be.

We all make mistakes. If you choose to decide to be with someone, you have to accept him or her completely. That includes his/her past. Past is past. You weren’t in the picture yet when it happened. Give the person the benefit of the doubt that it won’t happen again. If it does, then that’s a different discussion. Hahahaha

You also have to accept the person for who he or she is. Do not force the individual to become someone you want him or her to be. Don’t ask them to change. Change should come from him/her and for him/her.

Lastly, you also have to accept the person for who he/she wants to become. Understand and support his/her dreams. If you can not be the person who he/she aspires to become, then it might not be a good idea to be with him/her in the first place.

“Forget the past, live and enjoy the moment, and look forward to the future.”

Your heart knows best

“Life is too short to live it in a structured way, there is no prescribed method on how to get who, where and what you want – just being TRUE is enough to be YOU.” – Dr. Gia Sison

Most of the time, structures, norms or whatever you might want to call them constrict us from living our lives the way we want to. Why? Because more often than not, we always take into consideration what others will say. My take on that is simple – do whatever you want. People will always talk whether you choose to decide to do option A, B or C. Everyone will always have an opinion and as the old saying goes, we can not please everybody.

ON LIFE

It is a matter of knowing what you want and actually going for it. It is your life anyway. Live it for yourself and not for anyone else. Decide for yourself but always be prepared of the possible consequences you might have to face. Life is not just a straight path to get to your destination. There are many road blocks, detours, stopovers, potholes and even car breakdowns. There will be people who will be joining you in your journey and possibly half way to your destination, decide to ride another car or take another route. You have to learn how to face all of these circumstances.It keeps your trip interesting. Just keep on going and keep your eyes on the road. Every destination I believe is worth the travel. But just like the cliché: “It is not the destination that matters most. It is the journey.”

In life, we have the choice to choose our own destination and how to get there. Enjoy the ride!

ON RELATIONSHIPS / LOVE

Can we teach our hearts to love someone or to stop loving someone? How do you know when you already love someone? Are you really in love with the person or are you just in love with the idea of falling in love and being in love? Those are just some of the questions that we ask ourselves when our hearts start beating faster than it should and when butterflies start flying around our stomachs.

Love is such a strong emotion that a lot of people are scared of it. A lot do not know what to do upon feeling it. Just like any form of investment, loving comes with risk. When you invest your time and emotions, you also risk yourself from getting hurt and losing the person you love. It is never a 100% guarantee that the person you love will love you back as much as you do, heck, the other person might not even feel any form of love for you at all. But that’s how it is.

A lot of us are scared to invest in relationships today because it seems more complicated. There are so many “levels to dating”. Before it just used to be “dating” and then the couple becomes “in a relationship”. Now there are so many terms, levels and rules such as:

•      HOHOL (Hang Out Hang Out Lang)
•       MOMOL (Make Out Make Out Lang)
•       Dating
•       Exclusively Dating
•       In a Relationship 
•       Open Relationship
•    It's Complicated

See? There’s just too much I don’t even know how to define dating anymore. When does a date become a date? As long as you like the person, go out with him or her to get to know them. Don’t make things too complicated. Keep your intentions clear and know what you really want to avoid hurting people.

There’s also the time factor. People will usually say that you can’t rush into a relationship. Even the song said that “only fools rush in”. Yes, it is true that you can’t just get into a relationship. But I don’t think that the getting to know you stage, dating or courting stage has to be within a certain period of time. I also do not believe in the 3 month rule that Popoy popularized. We are all different. Some people move on faster, some people fall in love quickly. What matters most is that your feelings are genuine. As long as you know that what you feel is real and that you really want to be with that person, then go ahead!!! Take the risk. Fall in love and be in a relationship. Some people go through a very long courtship only to break up 2 months after they get together. Some people go through the exact opposite of that. It doesn’t matter how long you were going out or how long you were friends before you became a couple or got married.

Anyway, this has been too long of a post and I’m going around in love hearts already. Hahaha I just want to point out that in life and love, the easiest equation to happiness and probably success is following what you want. LISTEN TO YOUR HEART and then think of how to go about it. Be true to yourself and don’t be afraid to make mistakes and get hurt. Those things make us smarter and more human. Don’t dwell on what others will say, just be conscious of it.

Do not let the norms, structures or anybody live your life for you. Live your life the way you want it to for yourself. Everyone has been saying YOLO!!! You Only Live Once. So love as if heartbreak and pain do not exist and live as if failure and rejection don’t either. 

p.s.

Thank you Dr. Gia for encouraging me to blog again.

Caveat

I started blogging back in high school. I was never a good writer but I always wanted to share my thoughts. Maybe it's because I have always been very talkative and expressive of what I think and how I feel. I wrote as if I was talking or should I say blabbing? I didn't care much if I was using the right punctuations or if my paragraphs were full of run-on sentences. You probably noticed that by now already. hahahaha

I am not a writer by profession, so excuse me if this blog will have a lot of errors that will make Mr. Strunk and Mr. White, the authors of The Elements of Style, cringe.
This is my caveat. Read at your own risk and I'm sorry in advance for all the blabbing that you'd be encountering in this blog.