Your heart knows best

“Life is too short to live it in a structured way, there is no prescribed method on how to get who, where and what you want – just being TRUE is enough to be YOU.” – Dr. Gia Sison

Most of the time, structures, norms or whatever you might want to call them constrict us from living our lives the way we want to. Why? Because more often than not, we always take into consideration what others will say. My take on that is simple – do whatever you want. People will always talk whether you choose to decide to do option A, B or C. Everyone will always have an opinion and as the old saying goes, we can not please everybody.

ON LIFE

It is a matter of knowing what you want and actually going for it. It is your life anyway. Live it for yourself and not for anyone else. Decide for yourself but always be prepared of the possible consequences you might have to face. Life is not just a straight path to get to your destination. There are many road blocks, detours, stopovers, potholes and even car breakdowns. There will be people who will be joining you in your journey and possibly half way to your destination, decide to ride another car or take another route. You have to learn how to face all of these circumstances.It keeps your trip interesting. Just keep on going and keep your eyes on the road. Every destination I believe is worth the travel. But just like the cliché: “It is not the destination that matters most. It is the journey.”

In life, we have the choice to choose our own destination and how to get there. Enjoy the ride!

ON RELATIONSHIPS / LOVE

Can we teach our hearts to love someone or to stop loving someone? How do you know when you already love someone? Are you really in love with the person or are you just in love with the idea of falling in love and being in love? Those are just some of the questions that we ask ourselves when our hearts start beating faster than it should and when butterflies start flying around our stomachs.

Love is such a strong emotion that a lot of people are scared of it. A lot do not know what to do upon feeling it. Just like any form of investment, loving comes with risk. When you invest your time and emotions, you also risk yourself from getting hurt and losing the person you love. It is never a 100% guarantee that the person you love will love you back as much as you do, heck, the other person might not even feel any form of love for you at all. But that’s how it is.

A lot of us are scared to invest in relationships today because it seems more complicated. There are so many “levels to dating”. Before it just used to be “dating” and then the couple becomes “in a relationship”. Now there are so many terms, levels and rules such as:

•      HOHOL (Hang Out Hang Out Lang)
•       MOMOL (Make Out Make Out Lang)
•       Dating
•       Exclusively Dating
•       In a Relationship 
•       Open Relationship
•    It's Complicated

See? There’s just too much I don’t even know how to define dating anymore. When does a date become a date? As long as you like the person, go out with him or her to get to know them. Don’t make things too complicated. Keep your intentions clear and know what you really want to avoid hurting people.

There’s also the time factor. People will usually say that you can’t rush into a relationship. Even the song said that “only fools rush in”. Yes, it is true that you can’t just get into a relationship. But I don’t think that the getting to know you stage, dating or courting stage has to be within a certain period of time. I also do not believe in the 3 month rule that Popoy popularized. We are all different. Some people move on faster, some people fall in love quickly. What matters most is that your feelings are genuine. As long as you know that what you feel is real and that you really want to be with that person, then go ahead!!! Take the risk. Fall in love and be in a relationship. Some people go through a very long courtship only to break up 2 months after they get together. Some people go through the exact opposite of that. It doesn’t matter how long you were going out or how long you were friends before you became a couple or got married.

Anyway, this has been too long of a post and I’m going around in love hearts already. Hahaha I just want to point out that in life and love, the easiest equation to happiness and probably success is following what you want. LISTEN TO YOUR HEART and then think of how to go about it. Be true to yourself and don’t be afraid to make mistakes and get hurt. Those things make us smarter and more human. Don’t dwell on what others will say, just be conscious of it.

Do not let the norms, structures or anybody live your life for you. Live your life the way you want it to for yourself. Everyone has been saying YOLO!!! You Only Live Once. So love as if heartbreak and pain do not exist and live as if failure and rejection don’t either. 

p.s.

Thank you Dr. Gia for encouraging me to blog again.